I remember sometime last summer, my then 13 old daughter Jordynn got her cell phone taken away. You see, I made all three of my kids sign cell phone contracts that provided guidelines to what they could and could not do with their phones. Jordynn started becoming very consumed in some of the apps that she downloaded and she was beginning to spend so much time on her phone. So much, that when her school interim came, I saw some of her grades slipping. Maybe every parents story right? Well, I don’t play around with education and being consumed in things that will take you away from it. Needless to say, her phone was taken. I had it in my head that I would only take it for a full 24 hours. So basically, interims were sent home on Friday and my plan was to take the phone and give it back to her on the following Saturday evening. We discussed that instead of being on her phone, she would use that time to reflect on what’s important, and bond with her family. I remember we actually watched movies and played board games for the remainder of the evening Friday, and on Saturday, we hung out during the day. When Saturday evening rolled around, I proceeded to give Jordynn back her phone, but not without lecture of course. She looked at me and said “no, you can keep it longer.” I looked at her puzzled because honestly what teenager would not want their phone back after it has been gone for 24 hours. I gestured to give it to her again and she said “no, I don’t want it back yet because sometimes you have to disconnect to reconnect.” I thought to myself, “wow, how profound!” She proceeded to say “I need to disconnect for a while from my phone and connect with my family.” I was so proud of the level of maturity she displayed in that statement. It truly blessed me to see that in just 24 short hours, she was able to see that she was spending too much time on her phone, and she needed to enjoy time with family because everything else she was consuming herself in on her phone was a distraction.
As I prepared this blog and remembered the statement that my youngest daughter made, it reminded me of how important it is for us to disconnect ourselves from those things that pull us away from what’s important. My family always makes it a point to take an annual 7-10 day vacation each year. We are a family of five and vacations allow us to disconnect from the day to day hustle and bustle of work, school and sports activities, and reconnect with one another just to see how we are all doing. We act silly, watch movies, play games and just spend an immense amount of time with each other. We reflect on our many blessings and how good God is. We discuss our goals and dreams and we make memories. Most importantly, we build strong bonds that no one can break.
What do you need to disconnect from, in order to reconnect to? I would love to hear your feedback and comments.